The following quotes are from Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life, by Cloud & Townsend
- "People like Derek ... can be lots of fun. Except when you pop their bubble about their unrealistic grandiosity and their irresponsibility. Then you become a 'wet blanket.' It's revealing to talk to the 'wet blanket' who is married to a practicing child. No job is more tiring." Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life, by Cloud & Townsend
- "Boundaries are a "litmus test" for the quality of our relationships...So what does Debbie, whose husband is an avowed "boundary buster," do? Will her husband carry out his threat to walk out on her? He might. We can't control the other person. But if the only thing keeping Debbie's husband at home is her total compliance, is this a marriage at all?"
- "Today we call a person who continually rescues another person a codependent. In effect, codependent, boundaryless people, 'co-sign the note' of life for the irresponsible person. Then they end up paying the bills - physically, emotionally and spiritually - and the spendthrift continues out of control with no consequences. He continues to be loved, pampered, and treated nicely. Establishing boundaries helps codependent people stop interrupting the Law of Sowing and Reaping in their loved one's lives. Boundaries force the person who is doing the sowing to also do the reaping." - Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No, to Take Control of Your Life, by Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend:
